Helpful conversation tips you should know
We know that messaging someone for the first time can be daunting. But that’s why we’re here. We’ve got lots of tips you can use to make sure your chat gets off to a great start.
Do:
- Check out their profile first, so you can chat about their interests or things you have in common. It shows you’ve made an effort.
- Send a GIF or one of our “hello” messages if you’re not sure what to say.
- Play the questions game. It’s a fun, casual way for you to get to know each other.
- Keep the open questions flowing. Just try not to make it an interview!
- Ask for consent if you want to send a message or photo that might be sexual.
Don’t:
- Send just “hey” or “hi” as the first message. There’s so much more you could say, plus it doesn’t give them much to reply to.
- Copy and paste the same message to multiple people.
- Message someone constantly if they haven’t replied yet or have expressed that they’re not interested. It’ll be overwhelming for them and could be seen as harassment.
- Send unsolicited or non-consensual sexual messages. It’s not cool and could get you blocked and reported.
How to handle a lack of matches or replies
It’s disappointing when you’re not getting as many matches or replies as you’d like. But don’t ever let that knock your confidence. It says nothing about you or your worth.
If you’re dealing with feelings of rejection, we’ve got a great list of things you should always remember.
- If you ever feel inadequate or unworthy of finding a connection, remind yourself that this is not true. You’re great, and someone out there will recognise that.
- People can only see a fraction of who you are. They don’t know the real you just yet.
- Dating should never make you feel bad about yourself. So, if it does, it’s OK to take a break. Spend some time doing things that make you happy.
- Lots of people balance dating with other parts of their lives, so they could be busy.
- It’s common for people to turn their notifications off or only open Tveni at certain times.
And if you want to improve your chances, there’s lots you can do.
- Get verified to prove you’re a real person.
- Bring your profile to life with a great bio, interests and a mix of photos.
Send an open question or use details from their profile to start a chat.
How to stay alert & protect yourself
Dating scams are real, so you should always be careful about what you share. Trust us – the best thing you can do is keep your personal and financial information private at all times.
Be extra cautious with long-distance relationships too, even if you feel like you can trust the person you’ve connected with.
Here are some tips on how to stay alert and protect yourself from potential scams.
Look out for these signs:
- They ask you for money.
- They want to move away from Badoo quickly.
- They send you suspicious or unfamiliar links.
- They ask a lot of personal questions but avoid answering yours.
- It feels like they could be a catfish.
If you suspect someone is trying to scam you, here’s how to block and report them.
Never share these details:
- Passwords to your accounts.
- Card details, including your PIN.
- Last name.
- Home address.
- Work address.
- Email address.
Watch this video to learn more.
If you are not sure why people aren't getting back to you, it might be due to the content of your message and therefore it may be beneficial to try another approach.
Try to be more creative and use something that will catch a user's attention. For example, rather than copying and pasting the same message to everyone you like, read their profile first, see what their interests are and send an appropriate message.
Additionally, don't forget to add pictures of yourself of the best possible quality.
Feel uncomfortable or unsafe? We'll help.
Dating can be a lot of fun: chatting to new people, exchanging flirty messages, getting to know each other. But if it ever takes a turn, we want to know right away.
If someone is harassing you on Tveni or in real life, here’s how to block and report them. Make sure you tell us everything so we can help.
Harassment can be sexual or non-sexual. So, they might do things like:
- Make you feel uncomfortable by messaging you too much.
- Continue to message you, even after you’ve asked them not to.
- Stalk your profile on social media or create multiple accounts to message you.
- Use threatening or aggressive language on Tveni or in real life.
- Make unsolicited sexual advances, like sending you non-consensual explicit images or touching you inappropriately.
- Show up at your home or workplace without your consent.
We take reports like this seriously, so we investigate every single one.
Need help? We’re here if you need us.
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That's not OK. Here's what you can do.
On Tveni, we treat everyone – and we mean everyone – with openness and respect. That means there’s no place for bad vibes, offensive language or abuse here. If someone sends you an abusive message, here’s how to block and report them. Let us know everything so we can help.
These are the types of messages you should report:
Hate speech, like racism, sexism, transphobia or body-shaming.
Threatening or aggressive language.
Unsolicited sexual language or content.
We take reports like this seriously, so we investigate every single one.
Need help? We’re here if you need us.
Get in touch.
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